I recently watched a video made by Dove as part of it’s “Choose Beautiful” advertising campaign (if you haven’t seen it you can find it here http://www.cosmopolitan.com/style-beauty/beauty/news/a38731/new-dove-choose-beautiful-campaign-video/) , and the question came into my head, ‘How many of these women think that they are beautiful, but felt uncomfortable about publicly declaring it?’
I can think of lots of words for someone who is beautiful and knows it, and most of them are pretty harsh; conceited, arrogant, egotistical, vain, narcissist … even “proud” has a double-edged connotation to it. None of us want to be thought of as vain, even to ourselves, but we all seem pretty quick to pass it out as a judgement over others; myself included.
It’s easy to be intimidated by the beauty of others, especially when we’re feeling unattractive. I see it in myself all the time, and I see how it makes me behave; stand-offish, disconnected, critical. I don’t like it.
I don’t have any answers, but I think that being able to appreciate beauty in others goes hand in hand with being able to appreciate our own beauty.
The loveliness of the rose is not diminished by that of the violet.